There’s an interesting philosophical concept of “eternal recurrence.” Essentially, if you had to the live the same life over and over, exactly as you lived it, would you want to? (This is a vast oversimplification, I know.) But this is really a bastardized version of what I was really thinking about.
This came from another oddball thought I had this morning. As I think back to all the people I have had sexual relations with in my life (not always including intercourse) how many would I want to involve myself with again, if the opportunity arose? I don’t mean in the sense of “knowing what I know now, would I do it again?” I mean in the sense of “With everything in the past unchangeable, I meet the person today and have the chance for one more, would I?”
It’s a trickier question than you think. I threw this up on Twitter and pretty much everyone is in the 2-4 range. What I found interesting is that when I first posed the question to myself, the answer that immediately came up was “two,” and they both know who they are. (One of them I woke up with this morning, obviously.) But, as I thought longer, there were a few more. There was one person of the “Yeah, sure, it’d be fun, not sure anyone would work too hard to make that happen, though” sort. Then another of the “It would be really bad for me, but I don’t think I would say no,” sort. Which brings it to four.
And then there is that range where you think of all the others. The “ennh, not worth it,” the “it wouldn’t be just sex,” and the “there is no WAY I’m opening that Pandora’s Box again,” group. But there is also that, “What happened was enough, and I don’t want or need more” group. But what fascinates me is how, almost everyone I that answered (VERY limited sampling) seems to have about the same number of people they want more of, almost regardless of how many they’ve been to bed with. It’s even more surprising that when the number goes across multiple genders, it still doesn’t change much.
So…I open it to you guys. What do you think? How many would you go for one more of? What do you think of when you look back on your past in this light?
I voted 1, but since I’ve only had one sexual relationship, it was either that or 0. And really its a toss up. A case of : “It might be all right if I’m not in the mood to watch a movie.”
One of the people included in my two that I voted is a current lover I have.
And that is two that I would definitely go back to bed with. Like you, there are others that fall into the “it would be fun” category. And as sad as it is to say, my ex fiance is someone I wouldn’t go back to bed with. Hmm…weird. Now I’m rambling in your comments section. I apologize.
As I stated on Twitter – four, though I thought two men and two women I’d welcome back into my bed without hesitation. One being my current partner – without question.
Interesting how your responses were all in the 2-4 range.
Eh, it’s easier for me to count the ones I *wouldn’t* sleep with again…
*thinks*
Okay, not really. That number is over 5 too.
(I’m such a slut. *grin*)
You’re just trying to make us jealous.
Okay, it’s working. :-)
I have to say 3, my husband, my lover & my Sadistic Sir!!
I had to vote 0. Sad but true.
i voted 4. and i’ve had like… 25 partners (only counted IRL partners). one of these was the guy i was sleeping with when i was staying with you and mina, actually. it was very fun and sweet and uncomplicated and we didn’t do nearly as enough as we could have because i had to leave. another one was a girl who, after having slept together before, asked me to dom her… but i couldn’t do anything because i had started dating L and we weren’t in an open rela yet. the last two were “old flames” – sleeping with them would be a really BAD idea (pandora’s box; emotionally hurting other people) and under most cases i wouldn’t do it, but i would really, really want to and might be tempted to if the situation was right.