So, it should be no surprise that I am on Fetlife. I do like Fetlife. It’s not one of those dating sites, at least it never has been for me. I like it that way. Occasionally I get the lame message in my inbox, but for the most part, it’s a place to be connected with fellow kink friendly friends.
A few days, I received a message from someone I shall call, Andrew. He sent me a very short and sweet message.
“i never see someone so sexy like”
Ok give the kid a break. Keep in mind everyone I meet in my area is not a natural English speaker. It makes me cringe, but I have to understand. After all, he’s making more of an effort learning my language than I am his. Of course I don’t believe him. He probably sent that message to every girl in his area. I’m not dumb. I sent him a message pretty much telling him that I am flattered but can’t believe it considering the kind of women he is surrounded by. Still, he is persistent and claims he finds me to be very sexy in my photos.
I am still getting to know him and I have a suspicion that he is not Swiss German. I’ll find this out soon enough. What I can say is he is in Zurich, which means he is not far from me, he is 25, straight and curious and wanting to try new things. Andrew is also very very hot and his cock is a beast (which kind of scares me). *giggles* He’s also the symbol of European men, wearing Speedos in his photos (which he absolutely has the body for) and a gold chain around his neck and I don’t have a problem with it one bit. Yum.
Now.. where is the problem?
Anyone who knows me, also should know, that I am in search of a Dom. I know what I want and I am particular. My search is proving to be long and complicated, but hopefully the right person will come my way. Andrew, is not an experienced Dom. In fact, he knows nothing about BDSM. His interests seem to lie in having “rough sex”.
Normally, I would tell someone like Andrew to move along. But there is something about him. Maybe because he is hot. Maybe because he has a stunning cock. Maybe because he still sends me messages convincing me otherwise. There is something in my gut that is telling me “Mina, you need this. Fucking drop the strong act and just have some fun.”
So I asked twitter what they thought. The majority of people there felt I should just have some fun and search for a Dom while I am having fun.
Part of me doesn’t want to be a notch on this young man’s belt, but then again… wouldn’t he be a notch on mine? I never plan on marrying him. I never plan on making a life with him. He’s too young to even consider a life with me should he decide to stroll down the polyamory road. So why the hell not?
No, he’s not the Dom I want or desire, but why should I just sit here and wait? There is a lot of potential for fun with him. I could teach him a few things. I could mold him into what I desire. He has desires to both Dom and sub. I could have a lot of fun being in control of such a sexy young man.
When I began writing this post, it was a way to ask my readers for advice, but I think I have made up my mind. I think I’ll get to know Andrew a bit more and possibly give him a try knowing it will be just for fun. Sometimes a girl just needs to indulge herself a bit right?
Absolutely have some fun!
Absolutely right. You enjoy him. Take him, use him, see if he knows what to do with his gorgeous cock and if not then train him if he’s amenable; he’ll love it and so will you.
And just for the record, he’s right: you are so very hot in your photos. Many a man and many a woman would love to engage in some wet debauched filth with you.
Besides, you’re wet just thinking about it anyway, so your body’s made its mind up already.
sev xx
Go for it! Have fun. :)
You go have fun Hun!! Enjoy it whilst searching for the Dom! You never know, he may find an interest in the Dom side & end up giving you what you want!!
Yes! Yes! Yes! Indulge yourself! Have fun! And the Dom will come along when you least expect it. Why not just have fun in the meantime… go for it :))
Yes, he would be a notch on your belt as well… and, yes, there’s something to be said for being worshiped by a younger guy with a gorgeous cock.
Go for it, have some fun! :)
God, Mina, I feel for you.
I have the same problem. Needing a dom and not having access to one.
It’s incredibly jarring to have to beg someone to make you beg.
Either this man will be it or not. But, you cannot replace a self-assured man who will make you do things you never thought would appeal to you, to stretch you.
It really kills me to have to instruct a man on what excites me. Like “paint by numbers” sex.
So, you can have fun, if you want. He sounds delicious.
Go for it! Sounds like it could be fun if nothing else and u. Might teach him a thing or two. ;)