I got a text from Mr. English. Yes, you heard me correctly. Mr. English, the guy who slept with me a month ago and disappeared, texted me yesterday, to be exact. He texted to apologize for not emailing or calling and that there is no sufficient excuse for it. Though, he goes ahead and gives me three anyway. He’s sticking to his guns about his wife having had some problems (which are now resolved by the way), his father passed away and he was in England for 3 weeks. (I can only assume he has found his cell phone.) Did I answer him back? No I did not. I’m not planning on ever answering him. His excuses could very well be true and I’m sorry he has gone through a loss, but that does not excuse anyone from not being a decent human being. What about all my unanswered emails? There is no excuse… none. He could have taken the 5 minutes to tell me what was going on from day 1. Instead, he chose to not even contact me for well over 24 hours and only responded when I asked wtf was up. After, he disappeared once more. If he honestly wanted to treat me with respect, he would have told me something right away, but he didn’t. Now, a month later, he comes back with all these excuses.
Well, that chapter is closed and I put the book back on the shelf. Sending him a text to tell him to fuck off only opens the door for communication. Ladies, are you taking notes here? When someone is not worth your time, don’t give them any of it. So, I have a little satisfied smile on my face knowing that if he even cares just a little bit, he’ll be wondering if I even got that text. Sucks to be him.
You got it, sweety. No excuse, only reasons, and #1 reason is he’s a prick. I did that to someone last year, well, almost. I didn’t actually sleep with her, which made her even more angry after being in bed and all lol. All my calls weeks or even months later were about trying to make myself feel better so I stopped. It had nothing to do with her, and everything to do with me just being an emotional mess. I regret it and won’t do it again. But I can’t erase it, and neither can Mr. English. Though he may keep trying. You’re strong to ignore him. Good for you.
I have a feeling he won’t keep trying. Maybe he’ll contact me again in another month.. but, that’s not trying as far as I am concerned.
xo
Hey Mina, Long time reader – first time commenter. I sympathize with the anger regarding Mr.E but you’ve dedicated a great deal of time and energy here and on twitter to him. Seems like a do as I say, not as I do sort of thing.
Hey Mitch, first time reader.
There’s a lot of creative ways to say this, but i’ll keep it simple. You don’t really know what you’re talking about.
She got burned. She dealt with it. She dealt with it by talking about it and processing the emotions. Sure, she could have never said a word and stuffed in a bottle and then bitched forever, but that’s now how we deal with things here.
Then, he crops up, and she says something, because, well, it’s part of the story we’ve been sharing. You’re not going to hear about it again. But, this is part of the storytelling.
i mean, it’s always fun to try and nail people for hypocrisy, so, i can see where you’re coming from and looking to score one Jim Rome-style. But really, you don’t know what you’re talking about.
Well Mitch,
This here is a blog and I have people who read my blog and keep up with the goings on of my life through it, same with twitter. So, writing a blog post to keep people updated with what’s going on in my life so I don’t have to explain it to 50 people over and over again, kind of makes more sense.
The fact that I wrote 2 maybe 3 posts about Mr English since his disappearance means nothing to me. I like to write to express my thoughts and process my emotions. So .. um.. what’s the difference? I would have dedicated an equal amount in my head as I would have typing it out on the screen. Guess I should have kept my mouth shut.
You are just going to have to bring up what “a lot of time” means to you. Because, writing about him in a blog post after not talking about him for a month, doesn’t seem like a lot to me… *shrugs*.
You just have to realize that we have readers who ARE interested in knowing the stories that are happening in our lives. So when I write about the reappearance of Mr English, it isn’t to keep pushing the issue, but to close the chapter… like I said in the post. Should he contact me again, yes, I’m going to bring it up again, cuz there are people interested in knowing. And I will have people asking me in the future, if he ever said another word to me.
Good move, blowing him off. Best to file him away in the “lessons learned” category and move on. I’m sure there are other men out there interested in you and who won’t treat you like he did!
One can only hope.
Amen! Good for you!! :)
If it’s true about his Dad, well, I can’t blame him for not being able to find the words to talk about it for a few weeks.
You know, i’ve turned this thought over before. More than once, in fact, because i have found myself ironically defending her paramours to her when things go awry. But here’s where you have to draw the line:
There’s always one minute, somewhere, to say: “Sorry, family crisis,” if the person matters enough. And if she doesn’t matter enough to him to get that courtesy at any point sooner than a month later, then he’s not right for her. She doesn’t want to be with someone who thinks she’s such a low priority, and i don’t want it for her.
Secondarily – i don’t believe it. Well, let me rephrase – i DO believe that his father died. i don’t believe that’s why he couldn’t say anything.
Mina, you are a very smart woman. Good for you and yes, it definitely sucks to be him!