Sync

There are challenges to being Mina and Sylvanus. One of them is the difference in our energy patterns. For me, I wake up, and after a minute to figure out where I am, I am enjoying a moment of peace with the world. In that calm, there is always a welling up of sexual energy as my mind finds fantasies. Inevitably, morning wood rises soon, and I am picturing Mina in various positions of debauchery, often getting drenched in my fluid, or contorted into some uncomfortable position where I find a way to be inside her. Of course, Mina is actually sound asleep at this point.

Now, I should say that Mina has always been clear. In this situation, I should wake her up and fuck her. Not necessarily in that exact order. Like many women, she likes the idea of getting woken up to be fucked. Of course, it’s not the only way she wants to get fucked. And, if you’re in my shoes, it’s hard to look at a peacefully sleeping wife and decide to interrupt her for your own selfish desires. So, mornings are often some sort of compromise. Lately, she’s been watching me masturbate. I have tried to do it once or twice without demanding her attention, but she always rolls over to watch. But that’s our morning.

Mina then gets to sleep later, and during the day finds her flirtatious energy. Of course, at this point, I am neck deep in a job that seems to always demand every last bit of attention I can give it. So, the world of Twitter and chat gets set ablaze with her energy. Then, when I get home, I am usually exhausted and beaten, so my arrival at home tends to be quiet as I am finding a moment to be at peace while I regroup. I often go straight to the kitchen and start cooking dinner as a way to find my mental center. Mina is always attentive and generous, and is amazingly understanding. We normally eat dinner, and watch TV as our energy winds down for the day, and normally go to bed ready to fall asleep.

What it means, though, is that neither one of us really has that energy surging forward at the same time. When we were first together, and we simply had more energy than we could possibly burn, it was one thing. But now, it’s a challenge. We are having to make time, or find a way to shift our schedules. Of course, we make it work. Mina’s submission is a wonderful thing in this regard.

But, another thing that I’ve discovered with our explorations with others, is that it often leads to explosions of energy. It’s what the swinging community calls NRE – New Relationship Energy. It’s great stuff, and we have had fits of incredible sex in the days and hours surrounding our encounters with others. as much as I enjoy the newness of our open experiences, what I love more is the days of energy that surround it. I still get incredibly bothered thinking of Mina sitting in my lap, leaning forward to kiss Vic, and then leaning back, her hair across her face to kiss me, and then getting it from me and Vic from both ends. I still love remembering her sucking Don’s cock, and watching Vic’s face as she sucked his. These memories bring surges of energy back. The difference between my flashbacks and the actual experiences is that the flashbacks are usually things I have on my own.

Of course, we are also in a moment of suspension, as my job prospects, and the possible changes they represent, are up in the air, and the holidays are coming. So, it’s hard for us to really step out and commit ourselves when we don’t know what our future holds. At the same time, I have never been one to sacrifice the present…but I haven’t quite had that verve to really throw myself into it. Even now, as I think about this post, I can’t escape feeling that there was something missing from this. Tonight, Mina and I have spent probably too much of our evening on our separate laptops, me struggling with this post. Somehow, things are just that little bit out of sync. That said, I am looking forward intensely to my birthday Friday. I know that Mina has a wonderful evening planned, and I am looking forward to every minute of it. Time together always brings good things.