It’s hard to really explain where my brain is today. However, within the scope of the blog, there is a fascinating new idea occupying my thoughts.
Last night Mina and I decided to get drunk. As in absolutely schnockered. In our happily buzzed state, we took our sexual energy online, and had a crazy flirtation with any soul on Twitter who dared come near. Once the alcohol was consumed, we reconvened in the bedroom for some hot, steamy, doubly-penetrative sex.
But, let’s back up to before the butt plug went it. I took my drunken little slut to the bedroom, and, as is my wont, began talking filth to her as she sucked my cock. It’s how I am. But this time I was focused on a new vision of our relationship, a much more open relationship. I was imagining have a dinner date with another couple, and sending her home with them for a debauched evening, then reclaiming her after. I was imagining putting her mouth to work on someone else while I was enjoying her body. And I was verbalizing it all.
Of course, Mina is smart, and she knew to just brush it all off as drunk talk. And that was fine, but I knew in my heart that I meant every word. This morning I wake up, I go to work, and as I get home, I find my brain lapsing into a new zone of sexuality, wanting to pull everything and everyone in. I want to meet more kinky friends, and find a girlfriend for Mina. I want to find a couple to share her with. I want to find a submissive to play with alongside her. I want to send her off to a debauched evening and have one of my own. I went back and forth between forcing an introduction with a friend on twitter who happens to be local. I decided to play it cool for now, till Mina and I talked.
But, suddenly, very suddenly, my vision of our life together has changed. I want to show her off. I want to show myself off. I suddenly have developed a desire for a much more open relationship. Do I want to fuck other people? Not really. At least, no one I’ve met so far. Do I want to fuck Mina in front of other people? Quite likely, with the right people. Do I want to top some other people? Well, sure. Do I want to play another submissive against Mina, or with Mina? Hell yes.
Of course, you can’t sit there in one drunken night and rebuild your life. But, having suddenly come to terms with this unfamiliar aspect of my psyche, I am curious where it leads, and I wonder if this is a passing fancy, a welcome maturation, or an unfortunate genie I may never get back in its bottle.
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After I had spilled all of this filth on Mina, I decided it was time to bring something else new into our lives. Mina has recently developed a craving for anal, or least having her ass filled, even if she can’t quite handle my cock in there yet. From having played with her body many times, I was fairly sure her anatomy could not accommodate two cocks, since she is such a small person. However, earlier that afternoon she gotten her Tantus Ripple in her anus, and the Tantus John Doe dildo in her pussy. John Doe is very close to my size, so I had to admit to her that she had proved me at least partially wrong, something that she was positively beaming about.
So, that night, as we were wrapped up in this intense, drunken sex, I decided she should show off her newfound ability. She obligingly lubed the Ripple up and inserted it, and then lubed me up, and juuuuust squeezed me in. I gasped a bit at how tightly her body gripped me, even through my alcohol-dulled senses. I came in pleasingly short order, which sent Mina on a mission to fight through a grind her own orgasm out. I obligingly held the Ripple in place as she moved, making sure she got to be completely filled for her whole experience. The rest of the night is only an inebriated haze for me, though it did involve Mina walking the dog while wearing nipple clamps.
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It’s nice to be that kinky couple again.














I’m glad you’re that kinky couple again – not that I ever thought you weren’t. But, long-term relationships have cycles, hot periods, dull periods and everything in between. As for voicing thoughts of involving other people in/outside of your relationship, as long as you and Mina hold each other first and are honest about your feelings – especially if they run contrary to your current mutual understandings – then you’ll be OK, whatever the outcome.
I call these times, changing the rules of the game (relationship rules, certainly not only about sex, but life and approach). Gethin and I have survived several of them, some representing a fundamental shift more so than others. Those were frightening conversations to have because it made everything so unstable for a short time. I’m sure we’ll face more in the future – that’s evolution and growth. These game changers are not without risk and definitely not easy. But if you work hard at communicating, are patient with each other and make the new rules satisfactory to both, you’re a long way to making your marriage a long and happy one.
You two are very special and I’m glad that I get to read and follow along with what you choose to share of your lives. So many of your posts could be written by me it seems. The job is bad, the sex is wonderfully adventurous, etc.
Good luck to you both in whatever is next.
Good clean fun! Sounds like a great healthy relationship.
Wow, does that sound familiar. My wife & I have been “in the lifestyle”, AKA swingers, for a while. Almost as long as we’ve had whips & chains (brings a new meaning to “Home Depot is my toy store”). It wasn’t always this way though. We used to be the squeeky clean cut couple next door. I’ll share stories another time, but it was something that evolved in it’s own time. Raven was absolutly correct; communication will ALWAYS be the key. Talk about everything honestly. You’re obviously open minded, & I’m sure excellent listeners for eachother. Sport sex is just that. Although it has been passionate, intense, amazing, etc. when playing with others (pause for happy thoughts :) ),but youre own is best. “Vacations are great, but home is where I live”. It’s all just another one of those “can’t explain it” things. You’ll know what & when, and you’ll run into a bump or two, but live life. It’s better to ride the rollercoaster than sit on the couch.
Dom and I have toyed with the idea of playing with someone else but it hasn’t happened yet. We have had sex in front of someone else though, which was super hot. I think when the time is right for us to add someone else, we will know, and if that time never comes, that’s okay too. :) I think the most satisfying part of a relationship is the growth and discovery of things that you never knew you liked or were into, sexually or otherwise. That has been what has elevated my relationship with him beyond any other I have had. That is why you and Mina are such a good pair. :)
Daddy always had a fantasy of sharing me with another couple while He was there. It did happen, He was very much involved. It was me with the other guy and Daddy with the other girl, then 2 girls on one guy, taking turns, girl on girl, 3 on one girl and it was an experience to say the least! Now, Daddy says He doesn’t want to share me with anyone again. me? i wouldn’t mind doing it again! lol maybe one day… He is happy talking fantasies… i’m happy with that as well.
Anal play has become a huge part of our sex… We recently got some anal beads but He hasn’t used them on me yet. (i do kind of beg lol)
i love reading your blog, thank you for sharing your life with us readers!
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It can be fun to play with another. There is someone who I do have sex with infront of my other half & my other half has also involved himself (double penetration is fantastic!) but at the moment, we are in a cool period, not much kink, but hey! One day it will kick back in. Go with the flow, you will know if it is right for you, but don’t force yourselves into it.
Good post!! ;)
You and Mina really communicate well and are in tune with each other’s needs, wants, desires, etc. If you do start to “share”, I think you’ll do it with mutual love and respect.
I did read that nipple clamp Tweet but thought Mina was testing a new find! LOL