yes I believe Master and I are slowly understanding how to put me back into my submissive state.

xoxoxox mina

in the end, i always end up in my true submissive state with Him…where i always long to be

Yes. I think Master and I need to find that special little phrase, word or touch that will make me plummet back into submission. I am looking forward to it’s discovery.

beth

I suppose I was being extreme when I said perhaps I needed to be broken lol. But yes, my submission is a gift to be given and Master views it as such. One of the reasons I adore him so much.

xoxoxox mina

I tend to view submissiveness as a gift to be given, or withheld, from me to the right man: it isn’t a matter of him needing to subdue me. But of course, that’s me. I’m not trying to give unsolicited advice, merely clumsily trying to share how it is for me.

{{Hugs}}

I enjoy the delurking. I appreciate all words and comments. I could use the feedback. I am usually home before he is. His journal has started putting submissive routine back into my life. There are instructions on how I should be dressed and how I should be upon his arrival. Last night he slowly taught me some renewal lessons in submission.

oatmeal girl

*smiles* I guess we are still on the path of discovery

essence

As our lives mold and change we will need to find ways of connecting to our D/s nature when it is not physically possible.

liras

I don’t think I’ll ever go to far that I can’t get back. Master is kind and he knows how take me back. I can’t imagine my life without him or the things we share. This is my home.

xoxoxoxox mina

But you will come back. Your feet know they way too well for you to b truly lost.

i like His fawn’s method but i wouldn’t be able to do that on days my children are home. lol He does have His way of reminding me of my place, sometimes He’ll just say “Whose girl?” i alway get quiet then and softly say “Daddy’s girl or Your girl.” Sometimes He just gives me that look of… remember who I am.

As oatmeal girl says it’s part of the voyage of discovery… i don’t think it ever really ends.

my best always
essence

but often he’ll call me and i’ll be all wired and babbling and nowhere near sounding submissive. and as we haven’t seen each for over 3 months, and have a long wait ahead of us, he did have to come up with non-physical methods. so it was just a question of observation. for example, if he asks “what are you wearing, kitten?” he can hear my voice change and know i’m settling into subspace. it’s that easy.

last january i took him to a music & dance festival - a very new experience for him. at one point, he was holding my hand and then suddenly pressed his nail into my palm. he saw it on my face - i was suddenly in a different place.

once he discovers the right triggers, it won’t be a question of “embracing” your submission. you’ll suddenly be there, and it will feel so good to be back. it’s all part of the voyage of discovery. just try not to get seasick!

I’m delurking once more to comment..after reading your blog I knew I had to…

I too am a very busy career woman with many people counting on me I do relish that part of my life and like you I use to have a difficult time of shuting it off to sink back into my submission..

Until I tried this.. Master is in his chair awaiting my return,as I enter the house closing the door behide me..this one strips down to nothing leaving the world at the door..then I drop to my knees making my way to Master’s feet…as I crawl naked the day fades away as my focus once again becomes Master..it come naturally now without bumps..
Perhaps if you come up with something like this it might help you?

Good Luck
His fawn